10 Activities the Mother of the Bride should AVOID
by V.V. Denman | @vvdenman
Planning a wedding can take its toll on a Mother of the Bride. So many details. So much expense. So many emotions.
Several activities greatly increase the stress level. Word of advice? Avoid them.
Here they are, in no particular order.
1. Do not Google wedding ideas.
This is counter productive. Your darling daughter is already camped out on Pinterest as well as The Knot. Soon she will email you twenty-seven bazillion links for great ideas, claiming they are easy and inexpensive. Do not believe this.
2. Do not try to do everything yourself.
Even though DIY projects save money, you can’t do all twenty-seven bazillion of them yourself. Figure out what projects you can reasonably manage and budget for the rest.
And . . . pay attention, now . . . when friends and family ask what they can do to help, tell them. I know it sounds simple, but don’t be fooled. This is a toughie.
3. Do not ignore unsolicited advice.
Especially if this is your first MOB endeavor. Just like all the baby advice you tolerated when your darling was born, the wedding advice may get old and repetitive, but that doesn’t change the fact that THOSE WOMEN HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS BEFORE and survived. They have excellent suggestions. Besides that, they’re less expensive than a wedding planner and easier on the eyes than the internet.
(Pay close attention to their disaster stories. Take notes. Discreetly avoid these mistakes.)
4. Do not compare your daughter’s wedding to other weddings.
Of course it would be fun if darling daughter’s festivities out shined every other wedding in the county, but seriously? If you start comparing, where will it end? Here? Instead, focus on making her day special to her. And her alone.
Okay, maybe him, too.
A little bit.
5. Do not heed Mother of the Bride dress styles.
6. Do not reject handouts.
In this day and age, none of us should be too good for gifts, especially when they come from people who love our kids. Often times, these items end up meaning the most to the bride. A cousin’s flower girl basket, a wedding cake made by a friend, pictures taken by an aunt. All these make for priceless memories.
7. Do not demand perfection.
We all want the best for our bride, but remember: Everything. Does. Not. Have. To. Be. Perfet.
8. Do not forget to sleep.
Nothing makes a MOB crankier than sleep deprivation. Don’t go there. Whatever you do in the middle of the night will take half the time after a good night’s rest.
And . . . not that you would do this . . . don’t lie awake worrying about details. God can manage things without you. Go ahead and give it up.
9. Do not forsake the budget.
Even though weddings are the stuff dreams are made of, debt is the stuff of nightmares. (Been there, done that, burned the t-shirt.) Sure, darling daughter will only get married once, but you can make her day unforgettable without burdening your finances. See # 1, 3, 4, 6, and 7
10. Do not stifle the tears.
Happy or sad, go ahead and let them out. You’ll feel better afterward.
But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42
What advice would you give a Mother of the Bride?
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