Dating (each other) After Marriage
Dating after marriage is paramount to a healthy relationship.
But how can you manage it? Especially with children, jobs, etc?
Books, blogs and articles, offer excellent suggestions like:
- Leave the kids at home
- Wear stylish clothing
- Go to nice restaurants
- Sit close
- Don’t talk about the kids
- Share a dessert
- Be spontaneous
- Talk about your feelings
- Compliment each other
- Make the evening special
Tried and true, marriage-counselor-worthy advice . . . which went unheeded by my spouse and me when our children were small. We didn’t have a dime to spend on clothes or restaurants, and we were both so exhausted that spontaneity was out of the question.
So . . . I’ve consolidated these points down to a concise mission statement:
This, my friend, is doable.
No rules and expectations. No setting yourself up for failure.
Hunky Hubby and I had countless Wal-Mart dates, too many fast food dates, and when babysitters were not an option, we tucked the little tykes into bed and enjoyed a candlelight dinner in the living room. (Yes, of course they all got out of bed, but that’s beside the point.)
What mattered was that we were spending time together because we were crazy in love and wanted to stay that way.
Dating after marriage? Even if you can’t go fancy-smancy, just DATE. (Tweet this)
For you and your spouse, what makes a typical date night? What about when the kids were small?
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