How Many Kids Should We Have, Honey?
Family size is tricky to figure out.
Or should we even try? Some couples leave it in the Lord’s hands, while others calculate ovulation down to the minute so they can determine not only the birth date of their baby, but also the gender.
Maybe you’re strategically planning your family.
Maybe you’re contemplating what lies in store as you wait for God’s small gifts.
Maybe you’re looking back on your parenting years and wondering what on earth happened.
In a nutshell, here’s my take on family size:
1 child - You and your spouse have complete control of the situation. The odds are forever in your favor. Should a parent become _____ (insert appropriate adjective), no worries! the other parent is available to intervene. The child is well cared for and feels constant love and affection, though occasionally your bundle of joy may slightly prefer one parent over the other.
2 children – It’s one-to-one now. That seems reasonable. Things are still under control, as long as the parents support each other, practice patience, and take plenty of Tylenol. Everyone is happy here. No parent is left without a child to cuddle, no child is left without a sippy cup fetcher. All is well.
3 children - Now you’ve gone and done it. You’re out numbered. No matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to control all of them at the same time, and at least one child is always scurrying away from you at record speed. The children begin to feel a loosening of the reins, and respond accordingly, testing the boundaries.
4 children - No noticeable difference whatsoever. Once you’re outnumbered, all control is lost. You might as well try for a football team.
5 children - Or perhaps a basketball team.
Wouldn’t you know, there are no Bible verses detailing the perfect family size, so I’ll leave you with this one instead (slightly out of context):
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Phil 4:13 (NAS)
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